Embracing Grief: The Three "S" Approach to Healing

Life can be overwhelming and painful at times, especially when we’re grieving the loss of a loved one.

It’s a journey filled with intense emotions that can feel insurmountable.

A common way to cope with grief is to stay busy—distracting ourselves from the heartache.

However, this strategy often proves to be a temporary solution.

When we least expect it, the weight of grief can crash down upon us like a mighty ocean wave, leaving us breathless.

In our moments of exhaustion, overwhelmed by responsibilities, we struggle to confront such profound feelings.

It’s then that I invite you to embrace the three “S”s to stabilize you on your grief journey: Slow down, Simplify, and be Still.

Slow Down: At first glance, slowing down may seem counterintuitive when you’re faced with sorrow. Yet, it’s the key to healing.

The process of recovery from intense grief demands a significant amount of energy and focus.

Racing around, tending to everyone but yourself, leaves little room for nurturing your own heart.

Running from your feelings won’t make them vanish; in fact, they will persistently pursue you until you acknowledge them.

Simplify: To forge a path toward healing, you must simplify your life.

Take a moment to reflect on how you allocate your time and energy.

Are the activities and commitments you invest in truly essential for your well-being?

You may discover that many pursuits are mere distractions, diverting you from the vital work of healing.

It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of prioritizing the urgent over the important—your healing.

Ask yourself: What steps can you take to simplify your life starting today?

Be Still: A crucial aspect of your healing journey is cultivating a practice of stillness.

This practice allows you to calm your overstimulated nervous system and reconnect with your true essence, transcending the turmoil of earthly emotions.

Set aside at least five minutes each day to simply sit and do nothing.

Observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment, allowing them to exist without resistance.

When faced with triggers or distress, take 5 minutes to decompress in stillness.

In these quiet moments, solutions and feelings of peace may arise that were previously inaccessible amidst the chaos of your mind.

Remember, your presence is your most important asset.

It’s time to connect with the real you—beyond the cacophony of loud emotions.

By slowing down, simplifying, and embracing stillness, you can rediscover the Love that you are.

You will find yourself feeling less stuck and overwhelmed, cradled in the warm embrace of your Higher Self.

Are you ready to show up for yourself in a new way today?

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If you are navigating your grief journey and feel prepared to begin connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree

You are warmly invited to join our support community, focusing on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Big love to you!

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The Complexity of Grief: Honoring Lives and Lessons

When someone we love passes to the other side, the grief we feel over their death is palpable, yet seldom discussed is the grief surrounding their life.

The departed loved one might have faced tremendous trauma during their time on Earth, which could have led to deep-seated issues within the family framework.

In some instances, they may have chosen to end their own life, perceiving existence as an insurmountable challenge.

The stigma surrounding suicide can be incredibly debilitating for those left behind.

Not only must they grapple with the death of their loved one, but they also bear the weight of societal shame, often feeling ostracized and alone in their mourning.

I understand this pain and complexity—it is not easy.

In my experience, my son Cory struggled with alcoholism, drug addiction, periods of homelessness, and even incarceration.

However, he also underwent profound transformation and generously brought me along for the journey.

His sudden, unexpected death sparked a deep awakening within me.

In moments of quiet reflection, I have been able to connect with him on the other side.

One day, I asked Cory why he came to Earth.

His reply was powerful: “I came to shake things up, and I had to be shaken up in the process.”

From this higher vantage point, I recognize that Cory and I agreed to play these roles in this lifetime so that we could learn essential lessons as souls.

In our dynamic, he chose the more challenging role, willing to dive into the depths of struggle to transform shadows back into light.

Even if a soul cannot transmute their darkness into light within a single lifetime, they still serve an important purpose for the collective, navigating the complexities of the human experience.

Unfortunately, this vital contribution often goes unrecognized by the human mind conditioned to judge from a limited perspective.

I hold deep respect and honor for those souls who have chosen to traverse difficult paths.

These journeys do not unfold in isolation; they happen within our relationships.

We must recognize that even when it seems like the individual creating chaos is the “problem,” those who are closely connected to them have an equal journey of inner work to undertake.

Essentially, we are all playing various roles in the intricate play of life.

Sometimes we embody the roles of villains; at other times, we are the victims.

Imagine attending a theatrical performance, where at the final curtain call, every actor, regardless of their character, takes a bow.

You applaud both the heroes and the villains, acknowledging that behind each character is a performer executing their part.

Life mirrors this: each one of us is a manifestation of the Divine, God in costume, including those who play the roles of villains.

Each so-called “villain” bears the burden of their role, often at significant personal cost, their own suffering.

So, let’s reflect on the roles of our departed loved ones who may have caused us pain during their time here.

They have taken one for the team, as their contributions to our lives were instrumental in our personal growth.

Also, there is no shame for those who exit by suicide.

There is no hell.

Hell is a construct our minds create.

The shame we experience is a societal construct and holds no power over the soul's journey in the afterlife.

However, in their life review, they will experience the pain caused by their actions—a natural part of their growth cycle, but it is presented in a nonjudgmental way.

The other side is pure love, bliss, light, and harmony—indescribable in human terms.

For me, Cory facilitated profound transformation before he departed, yet there remained much work between us.

The Universe kindly sent others, mirroring Cory’s journey, to help me navigate the lessons still ahead.

Understand that this is Earth school, and everything we encounter is part of our curriculum.

In the heavenly realms, distinctions like right and wrong fade away. It is a realm of nonjudgment and unity.

This is our greatest opportunity: to let go of all societal programming surrounding traditions, religions, and the rigid definitions of right and wrong, embracing instead a space of acceptance for what is.

Let us respect and honor those who came before us, who may have endured challenging lives and inflicted pain in ours.

They played their parts well, often suffering greatly, ultimately for our growth.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." — Rumi

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If you are navigating your grief journey and feel ready to begin connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree:

https://linktr.ee/HealingHeartsSupport

You are warmly invited to join our support community, focusing on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Sending you big love.

Tuning into Love: Connecting with Departed Souls through Frequency

If you’re interested in learning how to connect with your departed loved ones, think in terms of frequency.

Humans have a remarkably limited ability to perceive the vast array of frequencies that exist around us.

Imagine if you could see, hear, feel, and smell everything that is happening in this very moment—it would truly blow your mind!

Connecting with our loved ones in spirit is a matter of tuning into these frequencies, much like adjusting a radio dial.

When you are in a deep state of grief, your vibrational frequency is significantly lowered, making it challenging to access the higher frequencies where spirits dwell.

This highlights the importance of grounding and healing if you wish to connect with high-vibrational beings, including your loved ones on the other side.

Equally crucial is the process of releasing limiting beliefs.

Let go of skepticism, the fear of judgment, and the notion that connecting with the spirit realm is somehow wrong.

Once you begin to remove these blocks and raise your vibration, you open yourself up to the magic that awaits.

For instance, today I received profound messages from my dear friend Renee, whose son, Madison, passed away last year.

Madison has found clever ways to communicate with his mom.

One of his favorite methods is to playfully interfere with her car radio, randomly changing the stations or switching to songs he wants her to hear.

Today, while Renee was with two of Madison’s friends, he took his antics to another level—switching the radio between English, French, and Spanish.

One of the friends, who is Hispanic, jokingly said, “Madi, if that’s you, switch it to Spanish.”

To their astonishment, he did so immediately and kept it there!

This is just one of the many ways spirit beings can communicate with us.

If you are navigating your grief journey and feel ready to start connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree

You are warmly invited to join our support community, where we focus on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Sending you big love.

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Big Changes, Bigger Patience

Navigating through grief is no small task.

Just when you think you’ve found some relief, another wave of intense sorrow can crash over you.

Take heart, my friend.

This too shall pass… but perhaps not today.

We live in a fast-paced society that conditions us to seek instant gratification, making it easy to wish away our burdens, trying to get the monkey off our back.

Yet, when grappling with grief, it’s vital to honor that human part of yourself that often feels disconnected from Love.

Transforming your resistance to grief into acceptance requires immense patience and compassion.

You may not fully realize just how much grief is woven into the fabric of your being, stored in the very DNA of your cells.

It takes time to unravel this latent energy that has become constricted and blocked.

As you begin to allow grief to flow and to accept what you are feeling, you will slowly start to expand and open all the parts of yourself that have felt tight and restricted.

Consider this: a sunflower seed and the seed of a yew tree may be nearly the same size…

But while the sunflower seed germinates in just 7 to 10 days and lives for a mere 70 to 100 days, the yew tree requires 2 months to 2 years to germinate and can live for up to 900 years!

This serves as a reminder that the magnitude of the change dictates the patience required.

If you have experienced the loss of a child or someone close to you, you are navigating a profoundly traumatic event.

And that doesn’t even begin to account for any trauma that may have occurred during their lifetime.

This is significant work.

I invite you to…

Be strong.

Be courageous.

Be compassionate.

Be patient.

One day—not today, but one day—you will look back on your journey and be in awe of the beautiful life you’ve created.

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